Putting The Merry Back in May
So what can you do if May just makes you sad?
Well, first keep in mind that Mother’s Day is just another day. It only has as much significance as you give it, so don’t get stuck there! It’s tempting, but not helpful.
What is helpful for empty nesters is to take yourself out of your usual environment.
If you have a tendency to stay indoors and mope, get outside and really concentrate on finding and appreciating the new life that is showing itself in the spring flowers and the new green growth on the trees.
How does it relate to you? What parallels can you draw with yourself? What do you want your new season, your next era, to look like? To feel like?
Spring is a time for growth—and that means you, too. Get together with a friend and have a conversation about what’s next for you.
Empty Nesters, You Have a Choice
It might not feel like a choice, but it is one.
And as an empty nester, it comes up over and over. Do I want to feel sad today or not? How sad do I want to feel? How do I stop feeling so sad?
It can be an uphill battle, but truly, you’ve done a tough and amazing job raising your children and you are worth whatever it takes to be happy. You deserve to choose happiness, and as a bonus, it will make your children and your spouse happier too.
How You Can Choose to be Happy
Believe it or not, you actually can choose to be happy.
You may not think you can, but here is a good way to start.
Think about a time when you felt really happy—it doesn’t matter when or why. It only matters that you remember and feel how you felt.
Now consider how you are standing or sitting. What is your posture? Are you slumped and slouched or are your shoulders back and your head high? What is the expression on your face? How deeply or shallowly, slowly or quickly are you breathing?
What you’ve just done is reminded your body what it feels like when you are happy.
You probably think that you look sad or upset because you are sad or upset. But really, and perhaps surprisingly, your very clever unconscious mind knows whether or not you are happy by the way your body is behaving.
For most people, that’s the opposite process to what you believe.
You can consciously generate a state of happiness simply by imitating that posture and physiology you just identified! Try it right now if you don’t believe me. Get into a sad posture and you will feel sad. Get into a happy posture and you will feel happy.
The very best way of keeping May merry is to get really clear on who you are and the gifts you have. If that’s a challenge for you, or you don’t know how to start, I invite you to get in touch and request a “From Being Mom to Being Me”™ discovery session.
How are you going to make your May merry?